What's wrong with having sex with someone you love so much? Especially when you're sure it will last forever? Well, most dating relationships don't last. Just because you're able to to have sex doesn't mean your mind and heart are ready.
Contraceptives fail more often than you probably imagine. In fact, there's no such thing as completely "safe sex." But even if you're "lucky," premarital sex can leave emotional scars that you'll feel for the rest of your life.
When you're having sex with someone, it's hard to tell what you love — the person or the sex. So it's easy to wind up in a relationship, or even a marriage, with someone who's wrong for you. Developing the relationship first lets you find out if this is someone who you really love.
Lots of women give in and have sex to "keep" someone. Some even get pregnant, thinking that a baby will cement the bond. Then he leaves anyway. If you feel you need to have sex to keep someone you love -- is that person really worth keeping? Most men will find a woman more desirable if she chooses to wait.
When you trust someone completely and then that person walks away, you may feel used in a way you never have before. If you give your body to the wrong person, it won't take a baby or a disease to make you feel terrible. So think about waiting. You may be surprised at how good it can feel.
If the answers to any of these questions is "no," then you'd better wait. If you've been sexually active, get yourself tested for STD's. If you need to talk to someone about your relationship, contact us.
Source: Adapted from "You didn't get pregnant..." U.S. Department of Heath and Human Services, Public Health Office, Office of Population Affairs.