Sexual Abstinence
Abstinence, choosing not to have sexual
intercourse, is a common practice all over the world. Historically,
abstinence has probably been the single most important factor
in preventing pregnancy. Women and men of all ages deliberately choose
to abstain. Abstinence is a normal, common, and acceptable alternative
to sexual intercourse.
Although some use only sexual behavior
to express their affection, sexual expression does not have to
include intercourse. Most have a more expansive view of romance
and find that pursuits other than intercourse give them
pleasure and meaning. A walk with someone on the beach or watching
a movie together are activities many find just as meaningful
as sex. A "no" to sexual activity can also be a "yes" to deeper communication
and mutual appreciation.
Human nature is such that sexual
activity is intimately linked to one's emotional and psychological
state. The ability to control one's sexual urges is part of human
nature and also an important distinction between humans and animals.
The practice of abstinence enables couples to exercise fidelity
within a relationship. Many find that sexual activity is best
when accompanied by the deep commitment of marriage and openness
to the possibility of children. Not everyone is ready for this
kind of commitment and total self-giving. For this reason, many
women and men choose to abstain.
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What is Abstinence? Many people have their own definitions of sexual abstinence. True abstinence means to refrain from sexual contact of any sort, including: genital intercourse, oral sex, anal sex, dry sex (a.k.a. grinding or outercourse), mutual masturbation, or any other physically intimate activity done for the purpose of sexual gratification. Although there are some types of sexual activity which do not result in pregnancy, these are still a form of sex (most of which can also transmit disease). One good rule of thumb for those who are unsure, is to ask yourself if the behavior in question can only be done in private.
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Abstinence is superb contraception,
not to mention everyone's first method. Yet many unmarried couples
find it easier said than done. For young people especially, it
might be easier if high pressure situations, like automobile back seats
or empty dorm rooms, are avoided. Abstinence is the only way
to assure that pregnancy will not occur. It is also the only
sure way to prevent the spread of sexually transmitted
diseases, such as AIDS.
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Source: Epigee Birth Control Guide
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